Healing the Sister Wound
Women have been pitted against each other for centuries as conditioned by our patriarchal society. It’s time we put down our sword and shield to build a new culture of sacred sisterhood on the planet.
In this course, you will be given a framework to heal your sister wounds, create reciprocal female relationships and see women as your sister allies instead of your enemy.
I've had the privilege of participating in multiple programs offered by Tanya and Sistership Circle, and I can attest to her profound ability to guide deep healing and transformation. Her approach to unraveling the sister wound is compassionate and powerful, creating a safe space for true connection and growth. If you're feeling drawn to this course, trust that you're in capable and caring hands.
- Toni Harris
Every woman deserves to belong in sacred sisterhood where she is valued as her true self... even as a hot mess
Imagine being able to ...
For far too long ...
Women have been conditioned to be superficial, catty, competitive and jealous of one another.
We play out power dynamics with other women that leave us feeling less than, burned and unfulfilled.
We either feel like too much or not enough, holding back from vulnerability or being our authentic selves.
It goes way back … thousands of years of patriarchal conditioning … where women have been pitted against each other as a means to keep women oppressed and disconnected from their power.
It’s no wonder women don’t trust each other, feel unsafe in a women’s circle or prefer a man’s companionship over sisterhood.
Sisterhood has felt like a dangerous threat to our survival, instead of a supportive network of love and compassion.
But the truth is … we need each other, and we long for each other.
We want to be held and nourished by the feminine in the form of strong, unconditionally accepting sisters.
The time has finally come for us to co-create a new sisterhood culture that is based on mutual respect, love and understanding.
In order for us to redefine what it means to be in sacred sisterhood, we need to roll up our sleeves and get to work.
Sacred Sisterhood work involves:
This is exactly what this course is all about. I’m going to teach you how to heal old hurts and let go of relationships that no longer feel aligned so that you can step into real and authentic sisterhood with women who are willing to meet you with celebration, acceptance and reciprocity.
What exactly is the Sister Wound?
The Sister Wound is the separation and divide amongst women. For centuries, women have felt disconnected from one another and have built up general mistrust of other women, because there has been a “war on women” and one of the “weapons of war” has been to pit women against each other.
Your “sister wound” typically started when a girl/woman from childhood hurt your feelings, likely your mother, female relative, blood sister or childhood friend. This wound then continues to show up as women hurting you (betrayal, jealousy, competition, abandonment, rejection, ridicule, etc) and blocks you from creating deep and meaningful relationships with other women, collaborating with other women leaders, and feeling a sense of “belonging” in sisterhood.
What’s the cost of avoiding the Sister Wound?
The core limited belief of the Sister Wound is “I’m all alone and unsupported.” When we don’t deal with this belief, we keep our heart closed, shutting others out. Humans are designed to be in community with one another, but we can never feel that deep, felt sense of connection and belonging when we feel like we don’t deserve to be loved.
By healing the sister wound, we finally feel safe to be loved as our true selves, whether that’s a hot mess or on top of the world, and can experience a nourishing intimacy with other women that feeds our soul.
The Divided Feminine
Women have disconnected from the divine feminine, no longer in touch with the rhythms and cycles of the earth, their bodies, and their vaginas, so they no longer trust themselves and their own body wisdom. This lack of self-trust then manifests as a disconnect between mother-daughter and then ultimately sister-sister. A domino effect. It takes us all out.
Women have been taught to work and be like men, losing touch with their feminine power. When women step into their feminine leadership, many of the world’s problems will be solved. But feminine leadership does not exist without sisterhood. True feminine power is collaborative and co-creative; we will reach our full potential as women not as individuals, but as a collective.
How the Sister Wound shows up in your life
Friendships
- Do you struggle to share your true feelings in fear of being too sensitive or needy?
- Are you afraid to rock the boat by saying something that may create conflict?
- Do you feel like there’s a competitive edge with some of your friends?
- Do you struggle to get a word in as a girlfriend is constantly talking about herself?
- Are your friends always coming to you with problems, but you don’t feel like you can share your own?
Career
- Do women feel competitive at work?
- Are you afraid of asking women to collaborate with you?
- Have you had a falling out with another woman you’ve tried to work with?
- Do you tend to be the lone wolf when it comes to work?
- Do you feel like men are safer to work with?
Family of Origin
- Is your blood sister or relative jealous of you?
- Is it challenging to be with your family because they’re judgmental, negative or gossip too much?
- Does your sister look down on you or treat you like you are inferior?
- Were you the black sheep of the family?
- Do you constantly compare yourself to a sibling who seems to have it all? Or vice versa?
Community
- Do you feel uncomfortable or unsafe in a group of women?
- Do you feel outcast or don’t know where you belong?
- Did you have an incident growing up where a group of girls ostracized you, turned on you, or made fun of you?
- Were you unpopular as a kid or didn’t belong to any cliques?
- Did you belong to a sorority in college or clique in high school and have a “mean girl” experience?
If any of these resonate with you, the Sister Wound could be keeping you from having nourishing connection, community support and powerful partnerships.
Why did I create this course for you?
When I stepped into doing women’s work in 2010, I experienced firsthand the power of women’s circles and sisterhood.
But when we get a taste of what real and authentic sisterhood feels like, we then come face to face with everything that is NOT that.
We have to clear out the old to create space for the new.
As I connected deeper with women and for the first time, felt like I could be myself, I bumped up against my core sister wound:
Abandonment.
The fear started to come up that if I get too close to you and show you the undesirable side of myself (my pain and anger), you’ll leave me and I’ll be heartbroken. So it’s better to keep my heart closed and not get too intimate or vulnerable.
It was through multiple experiences that I was able to heal this core wound and feel safe to open my heart with other women.
Those experiences included:
Excluding a sister from a circle, telling her best friend not to tell her we were meeting without her. Of course, she found out and felt betrayed. I still feel awful that I did that.
Splitting up with my first business partner in 2011 because she felt it was my soul business and not hers. She was really good on stage so I hid behind her, and when she left, I was afraid of the visibility of being the sole leader.
Bringing in a dear sister as a partner in 2016 that created some competitive feelings, so she left; it took a few years to repair that friendship.
Feeling alone and disconnected every time I finished leading a circle program because the group remained friends, but as the leader I excluded myself.
I’ve hurt women and been hurt by women. I’ve felt alone, unsupported and left out. I’ve made so many mistakes over the years, realizing that there are layers upon layers of sister wounding, and that it’s the greatest work I can take on because it affects all of us.
I’ve embraced the challenges of being in sacred sisterhood and took a stand for women’s circles being a vehicle for healing the divided feminine.
I’ve spoken on podcasts, written articles and led workshops on the sister wound. Finally, I was given clear guidance that that course needed to be released to the public, and the book would follow.
There are two particular issues that I want to highlight:
1) Women feeling betrayed by another woman ghosting on them, leaving the relationship without notice and not responding.
2) Women feeling trapped in an unhealthy dynamic where they can’t be their true selves, but not sure how to gracefully exit without hurting feelings (typically because it’s a long term friend or blood relative).
Both issues are two sides of the same coin.
How do we speak our truth and gracefully bow out when a relationship no longer feels aligned, in a way that is conscious, respectful and feels complete?
How do we clear out the old to create space for new sacred sistership that is conscious, loving, reciprocal partnership amongst women?
We have to take responsibility for ourselves and use healthy communication. In other words, we have to do the work. And that’s exactly what I’m laying out for you in this course.
Course Structure
What the Course Covers
Why Healing the Sister Wound Is So Important
- Unearth the Origins of Separation: Dive deep into the sister wound’s roots and take the first essential step toward rebuilding authentic, trusting relationships with women.
- Body-Centered Liberation: Release years of mistrust and pain stored in your body through powerful somatic techniques that facilitate true healing.
- Anchor in Purposeful Transformation: Set a life-changing intention to rewrite your story and embrace connection over isolation.
- Turn Pain into Power: Transform old wounds into the foundation of your empowerment and connection.
- Step Into a Safe Healing Space: Experience the transformative magic of a judgment-free, guided environment designed to foster trust and vulnerability.
The Old vs. New Model of Sisterhood
- Identify the Roots of Disconnection: Uncover how childhood dynamics shape your current relationships and free yourself from their grip.
- Shatter Limiting Beliefs: Replace narratives like “I’m not enough” or “Women are untrustworthy” with powerful truths that open your heart to connection.
- Heal from the Inside Out: Use somatic awareness to unlock trauma stored in your body and create space for trust and intimacy.
- Break Free from Toxic Patterns: Leave superficial or codependent dynamics behind and create partnerships built on reciprocity and genuine support.
- Manifest Your Ideal Sisterhood: Use guided visualization to embody trust, celebration, and empowerment in every relationship.
Coaching Sessions
- Transform Through Real Stories: Watch coaching sessions that reveal how to overcome exclusion, betrayal, and judgment in your relationships.
- Step Into Your Authentic Power: Learn to set boundaries, own your truth, and honor yourself without fear or guilt.
- Break the Cycle of Old Dynamics: Identify and heal unconscious patterns rooted in childhood that sabotage your relationships today.
- Feel Seen and Supported: Gain tools and compassionate frameworks for navigating even the most difficult conversations with confidence.
- Move From Pain to Purpose: Use actionable strategies to transform hurt into reciprocal, loving, and empowered connections.
How to Heal the Sister Wound
- Transform Pain into Power: Take radical ownership of your healing journey and step into the freedom of self-empowerment.
- Dismantle the “I Am Alone” Story: Release the limiting belief that you are unsupported and claim the connection you deeply deserve.
- Navigate Difficult Relationships with Ease: Master proven processes to heal past wounds and rebuild trust with grace.
- Consciously End Misaligned Relationships: Learn how to exit relationships that no longer serve you while preserving mutual respect and closure.
- Call in Your Sacred Circle: Attract nourishing, aligned friendships that celebrate your authenticity, growth, and leadership.
Communication Tools
- Rebuild Trust Through Repair: Learn to mend disconnections and deepen intimacy by taking responsibility and fostering honest conversations.
- End the Resentment Cycle: Discover the exact tools to resolve conflict and prevent lingering emotional damage.
- Communicate With Purpose: Use nonviolent communication to express yourself clearly, making every conversation an opportunity for growth.
- Transform Upsets Into Opportunities: Turn conflict into deeper connection with step-by-step guidance on navigating challenging moments.
- Forge Sacred Sisterhood: Strengthen your relationships through vulnerability, truth-telling, and mutual understanding that lasts.
Opening Your Heart
- Redefine True Intimacy: Experience the transformative power of “into-me-see,” building connections based on authenticity and mutual understanding.
- Dismantle Emotional Barriers: Gently release the armor around your heart, inviting love and connection in its most authentic form.
- Embrace Empowered Vulnerability: Share your truth with strength and grace, forging bonds that honor who you are.
- Activate Heart-Centered Living: Engage in a powerful somatic practice to soften your heart and welcome the healing energy of sisterhood.
- Claim Your Worthiness: Stand tall in your deservingness of love, support, and meaningful relationships with aligned women.
Creating Sacred Sisterhood in Your Life
- Visualize and Attract Your Sisterhood: Paint a vivid picture of the empowering, supportive community you want—and make it your reality.
- Actionable Tools for Connection: Gain step-by-step guidance on setting boundaries, creating alignment, and initiating transformative relationships.
- Lead with Confidence: Learn how to create inclusive, safe spaces where every sister feels valued and celebrated.
- Break Cycles of Disconnection: Release toxic dynamics and build relationships rooted in reciprocity, empowerment, and love.
- Join a Global Movement: Be part of a mission to heal the sister wound and ignite the transformative power of sacred sisterhood worldwide.
Business Collaboration & Partnership
- Unlock the Power of Collaboration: Discover the secrets to creating impactful, purpose-driven partnerships that elevate your business and align with your values.
- Build Thriving Alliances: Learn how to cultivate relationships with women who support, inspire, and amplify your vision through genuine connection and shared goals.
- Master Co-Creation Strategies: Explore actionable techniques to balance giving and receiving in professional relationships, fostering mutual growth and success.
- Elevate Through Synergy: Transform competitive mindsets into collaborative opportunities, creating lasting partnerships that benefit everyone involved.
- Step Into Leadership Together: Harness the collective power of sisterhood to co-create projects, businesses, and initiatives that leave a lasting legacy.
Your Time is Now.
This isn’t just a course—it’s a call to action, a sacred invitation to heal, grow, and reclaim the sisterhood you’ve always longed for. The transformation begins with you. Break free from isolation, rewrite your story, and step into a new paradigm of empowered, authentic relationships.
Join the movement. Heal the sister wound. And together, let’s rise as women, united in love, trust, and unstoppable strength.
Your sacred sisterhood is waiting. Will you answer the call?
What you're going to get
What Women Are Saying
Meet Your Mentor, Tanya Lynn
Why I am qualified to guide you in healing the sister wound:
I am considered one of the world’s leading authorities on women’s circles and the sister wound as the founder of Sistership Circle.
I run a successful global business teaching women how to fill, lead and grow their circles with a team of 10 trainers, all of whom show up as responsible, mature feminine leaders, leaning in to handle conflict with grace. We embody and demonstrate sacred sisterhood as a team.
I have participated and/or facilitated 100s of women’s circles both locally and online since 2010, giving me real life experience in navigating conflict between women. I’ve seen all the ways women feel hurt by one another.
I’ve grown a thriving women’s community in San Diego, where women are inclusive, vulnerable and show up as their true selves with one another.
I am trauma trained from a 3 year program called Somatic Experiencing created by one of the leading authorities, Peter Levine.
I have coached 100s of women on healing their sister wounds over the years, both privately and in groups.
I collaborate with other like-minded leaders and have been in various Sister Minds, so I know what it’s like to be in sacred sisterhood with peers.
Join Us Sister!
F.A.Q.
No, right now it is only a self-study video course. However, if you’d like to book a healing session with me or one of our trainers, there is an upgrade option to do so when you register and anytime that you are doing the course.
The Sister Wound is the separation and divide amongst women. For centuries, women have felt disconnected from one another and have built up general mistrust of other women, because there has been a “war on women” and one of the “weapons of war” has been to pit women against each other.
Your “sister wound” typically started when a girl/woman from childhood hurt your feelings, likely your mother, female relative, blood sister or childhood friend. This wound then continues to show up as women hurting you (betrayal, jealousy, competition, abandonment, rejection, ridicule, etc) and blocks you from creating deep and meaningful relationships with other women, collaborating with other women leaders, and feeling a sense of “belonging” in sisterhood.
We invite you to take full responsibility for your sister wound instead of blaming those who may have hurt you growing up. Personal responsibility is the pathway to healing.
I’ve already done a lot of work on healing the feminine. Will this course help me?
A lot of times, the work we do is singular, going inward. To heal the sister wound, you need to do work both internally and externally. Internally: reflecting on your limited beliefs and somatically feeling stuck trauma. Externally: leaning into hard conversations with the women in your life. We give you prompts and guides to navigate these challenging conversations that will help you find your voice, repair, and move on.
If you are busy, you may want to consider how much you are doing on your own, and your relationship with support. If you have a hard time receiving support, then this course will help you open up to receive more, potentially creating spaciousness for you. In terms of the content, each module is less than an hour. What’s important to note is that you can do this at your own pace. There’s no rush.
Yes, you have lifetime access to the course materials.
Yes, we offer a 7-day refund period.
Yes, the sister wound is not just about your blood sister. It’s about your relationship with all the women in your life. You don’t need to have a conversation with your blood sister in order to heal your sister wound.
If the past is unconscious, then it will continue to creep into the present and future for you. The people in your life today become messengers of the past. While feeling big emotions as a child felt so overwhelming that it felt painful or never ending, the truth is, if you allow a feeling to pass through without stopping it, it only lasts for 90 seconds. The release that comes with crying can be very healing. I highly recommend booking a 1:1 session to be held in a safe container if you struggle with feeling big emotions; we can support you through the process.
There may be some relationships that you need to let go of because they no longer feel aligned, or they are doing more damage than good. We guide you through the process of gracefully and consciously completing these relationships instead of cutting them off.
As you’ll see in one of the coaching sessions, this may be the thing to do to create change. Again, we’ll walk you through setting a boundary and getting clear on your conditions to be in contact.
It’s Time to Break the Mean Girl Cycle
There’s a famous movie called Mean Girls from 2004 which is about high school shallow popularity and cliques.
While this is a dramatization, it’s not far from the truth.
I’ve heard of countless stories of women feeling excluded from a group of women.
It’s time that we stop seeing women as competition, and instead see that we are more powerful when we come together in sisterhood.
It takes one sister at a time doing the inner work and creating small circles that will ripple out and break the cycle. Where we can support and celebrate each other instead of putting each other down.
You can do your part, creating a win for yourself and a win for all women.
