If you want to fill your women’s circles, one of the most overlooked aspects is how the sister wound impacts your ability to attract participants.
We are at the time of year when the How to Lead Circle participants are putting their first circles out there for Sistership Circle Day, which is happening in December.
And there is SOO MUCH fear, worry and doubt that comes up.
After training facilitators for over a decade, I can say without a doubt that working on your Sister Wound is a surefire way to increase the amount of participants in your circles, events and programs.
Here are the top 5 signs that you have a Sister Wound affecting your sales & marketing (your ability to fill the circle):
1. Fear of Being Perceived as “Too Pushy” or “Salesy”
False Belief: “If I promote myself or my circle, I’ll come across as selfish or unlikable.”
Childhood Experience: Being criticized for speaking up about your achievements or needs, especially by female peers or authority figures.
Example: You eagerly shared a good grade or accomplishment in school, only to be met with dismissive comments like, “Stop bragging,” or teased for trying to stand out.
2. Doubt About the Value You Offer
False Belief: “What I have to offer isn’t good enough, and no one will want it.”
Childhood Experience: Feeling overlooked or undervalued by peers, teachers, or family when you tried to share your ideas or talents.
Example: Presenting an idea in a group project, only for it to be ignored or dismissed while another girl’s idea was praised and implemented.
3. Struggling to Attract the Right Participants
False Belief: “Women won’t truly resonate with or commit to what I offer.”
Childhood Experience: Being part of a group or activity where you didn’t feel fully included or understood by other girls, leading to feelings of alienation.
Example: Joining a friend group or sports team but always feeling like the outsider or that your presence wasn’t valued.
4. Avoidance of Direct Invitations
False Belief: “If I directly invite someone, I’ll be rejected or seen as bothersome.”
Childhood Experience: Reaching out to other girls for connection (e.g., asking to join their game or sit with them) and being rejected, ignored, or told you weren’t welcome.
Example: Asking to sit at a lunch table and being told, “This seat is taken,” even when it wasn’t.
5. Feeling Like You’re in Competition With Other Leaders
False Belief: “There’s no room for me because other women are already doing it better.”
Childhood Experience: Being compared to other girls by teachers, parents, or peers, creating feelings of competition and inadequacy.
Example: Hearing, “Why can’t you be more like her?” or watching another girl consistently win praise while your efforts went unnoticed.
Uggghh.
Your experiences from the past create subconscious blocks in self-promotion, visibility and outreach, leading to self-doubt, hesitancy and missed opportunities to fill your circle with aligned women.
So how do you move forward?
By identifying the specific Sister Wound experiences from your past …
reframing old beliefs that stem from those experiences and …
releasing the stagnant energy that your body continues to hold through somatic practices …
you can then rewrite the narrative and feel freed up to have conversations with women about circle.
Most importantly, because of doing the inner work, you will attract instead of repel women who are ready to receive the sisterhood medicine of connection, support and love.
This is what’s all possible in our new Healing the Sister Wound Course.
In this course, you’ll gain:
Healing the past to reconnect with your power and rebuild self-trust. I guide you through a process to let go of pain, betrayal, and limiting beliefs about other women.
Awareness and understanding of how the roots of the sister wound manifest in your life. You’ll learn tools to transform jealousy, judgment, and comparison into growth and inspiration.
Skills to build authentic relationships that are meaningful, and deep. In addition to learning how to lean in and navigate difficult conversations and repair relationships, you’ll also learn the new model of Sacred Sisterhood so that you can embody it to call in aligned women to your circles.
Stepping into collective strength by embracing collaboration and celebrate the power of sisterhood. If you truly want to fill your circles, you have to make it about something bigger than yourself so that women are inspired to rise together.
Get started today to heal your sister wounds and start building your sacred sisterhood.
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Be part of the movement to create 1 million circles on the planet, where together every woman is seen, celebrated and accepted as her true self. Let’s lay down our swords and shields and create one global sacred sisterhood.
This is the path … where you can do your part, creating a win for yourself and a win for all women.
