Do you feel a calling deep down inside of you to gather women in circle? Do you want to know yourself as a leader who brings women together in circle for healing and transformation?
Of course you do, that’s why you are here. Circle is encoded in our DNA. It is part of what it means to be a woman. For eons, women have been gathering together to tell stories, watch each other’s children, cook food together and support one another in times of hardship.
More than ever, women feel the call to gather with their sisters, and as we watch issues escalating globally, women feel the urge to rise up into their leadership like never before.
While many women want to step into their leadership and create women’s circles, many women do not take the action to do it. The fear, doubt and worry creeps in and becomes a block.
Get out of your head
The more you think about starting a women’s circle, the more you’ll get caught up in the reasons why it won’t work for you. Fear, doubt and worry are all part of the mind’s strategy to keep you safe in your comfort zone and out of action. You worry too much about what women will think, how busy they are, and whether or not they will open up in circle. You doubt your capabilities, strengths and talents.
To get out of your head, drop down into your body and feel. Close your eyes and imagine the sensation you will feel when sitting in a women’s circle. Feel the warm tenderness in your heart. Feel the expansion as your heart fills up with excitement. Feel the power in your solar plexus. Feel the stirring in your womb. Once you get into that state, take action. Pick up the phone and extend an invitation … and do it quickly without thinking.
Be specific
I hear from women all the time about how they want to start a circle, but they have not set a date so it never happens. It becomes a “one day some day” conversation and soon enough, a year has passed and nothing has happened. If you do not get clear on the specifics, the universe does not have any way of responding.
Use the S.M.A.R.T. Goals approach to starting a women’s circle: Specific, Measurable, Action-Oriented, Realistic and Time-Based. Set a goal with as much detail as possible. Here’s an example: I will host (action-oriented) a full moon circle gathering at my home (specific) on Dec 13 at 6:30 – 9pm (time-based) with 10 women (measurable and realistic).
Get clear and align with your WHY
If you do not feel an urgency to do it right now, then you have not fully aligned with your WHY. Your WHY is the fuel behind the action. It inspires you when you get stuck in fear and pulls you forward into action. It is so compelling that it inspires others to say yes too.
Dig deep and journal on the following questions:
- Why do you feel this calling to lead women’s circles?
- What do you personally want to receive from it?
- What happened in your past that inspires your passion?
Get out of the way
If you are someone who is multi-passionate, has a lot going on, has a lot of responsibilities, or gets easily distracted, you may want to ask yourself: What am I hiding from? What really matters to me that I am afraid of prioritizing?
If you are too busy, taking on too many responsibilities, never saying no, overcommitting, or having circumstances constantly throw you off course, then most likely you learned at a very young age from your own mother that everyone else’s needs are more important than your own. To be liked, to stay safe, and to fit in you need to look like superwoman and help everyone else even if it’s at the expense of your own happiness.
Circle probably appeals to you because of its natural authenticity, connection, and nurturing support. You are probably craving a place to just be yourself, take off the mask and be held. It’s scary though and so while you desperately desire it, you also avoid it. The inner conflict is a confusing message so the universe keeps throwing you circumstances that prevent you from going after your dream.
Commitment is the solution. To choose it, stand in it and declare it. Once you commit, you can then say no to the things that feel like a distraction from your purpose.
You are worthy
While it may feel like you are giving as a facilitator in holding space, you are actually receiving. Circle is about receiving love, support, connection, and even compensation (if you choose to charge for the service you are providing your community).
You may not feel worthy of receiving and so you will sabotage the chance to receive the gifts of circle. It may feel like a luxury and an indulgence to give yourself the gift of sisterhood and fully receive it.
To step into your worthiness and own your value as a facilitator, you need to understand one thing: if you don’t do it, who will? If it feels like it is yours to do, then you are worthy of taking it on. Step into your greatness. You were born to lead. You were born for circle. Remember, it is in your DNA. You are worthy simply being a woman.
Raise your Vibration
Opportunities and resources come to those who raise their vibration to the frequency of abundance.
What that means is if you are focused on the negative – why women won’t attend, why women are flakes, why women won’t be interested – then that is what you will get: women who aren’t interested or already busy. The more you focus on your fears, doubts and worries, the lower your vibration will be. You will not be a source of inspiration for others to follow. You will always attract what is an energetic match to your vibration.
To raise your vibration, you need to focus on your WHY. Feel the passion, excitement and expansion in your heart space. Feel the stirring of your creative life force in your womb space. Focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have. Every time the thought comes into your head that “they are too busy,” or “they won’t be interested,” immediately re-frame it by stating what value they will get from coming and why they need to be there, which ultimately is the value you are personally looking to get and why you want to be there.
Let your goddess deliver
If you think it’s all about you, it’s not. As soon as you start taking it personally, you are losing trust. Yes, women are saying yes to come to “your” circle, but it’s not really your circle. It’s a collective circle that you are organizing and facilitating. Each woman has her own intention, her own why and it is your job to just trust that your intention that you put out there in the universe is like a smoke signal to attract other women with a similar intention.
If you let go of your attachment of what it should or shouldn’t look like and just be the smoke signal, then the exact right women will show up. Trust that you are specific enough that the goddess knows what to provide. The goddess never disappoints; she always gives you exactly what you need for your growth and expansion. The more you expand your capacity, the more women will attend.
To trust, keep letting go. Let go of the fears, doubts and worries as they come up. Let go of the attachments. Let go of the negative talk. Let go and let goddess. The truth is, you can do anything that you put your mind, heart and spirit into. As a woman, you are a powerful creator with the ability to birth life, dreams and miracles. You just need to remember the truth of who you are. Circle is in your DNA. You were born for it. So go ahead. It’s time for you to rise.
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